Wednesday, February 21, 2018

The-Miserable

Howdy folks! 

I'm pretty sure that everyone has met up with, crossed paths with, people who are miserable. Miserable people are insensitive, inconsiderate, cruel, nasty, hurtful, etc., etc., both with their words and their actions/behaviours without due cause. In other words for no reason at all, they talk and behave this way. They don't care they cause harm to and hurt others or that they carry out wrongs against others. They don't care about themselves in ways that count and so, they are incapable of caring about others as well. In fact, there are miserable people who actually delight in causing harm to others, even thrive on such despicable behaviour. Causing harm to others includes saying deliberate hurtful remarks and comments as well, causing internal pain, a very real pain, which can be felt within the person on the receiving end and is likely already in existence in the one causing it. Regardless however, about why miserable people inflict pain, doing so can't be justified simply because they are hurting inside themselves even though miserable people do exactly this, whether consciously or subconsciously.

The key thing to remember when having unfortunate encounters with miserable people is, it is "they" who are miserable "with themselves" and they're seeking to make others as miserable as they are, because it is true, "Misery loves company". They want others to "share their pain with them", because miserable people are really 'suffering people'. They are suffering inside for a number of reasons or a combination of. Insecurities: feeling inadequate in some way or ways, low self esteem deeming themselves as not having much value or worth, feeling unsuccessful, feeling unimportant, haven't realised or found their life's purpose, immaturity, etc., are all things that can contribute to a person feeling miserable. 


Miserable people try to project onto others that which they don't like within or about themselves. By projecting onto others what they don't like about themselves, they think they're ridding themselves of whatever they're projecting and whoever they're projecting on, they think they're bringing that person down closer to their level and in so doing, they feel they've lifted themselves and even a sense of accomplishment with their behaviour. In their mind they think they are taking away from the other person what they see in themselves lacking. If they can't or don't have whatever it is they're coveting, they don't think another should either. 'Course, it's a very immature way of thinking. 

When miserable people meet up with, especially people who are happy. loving, caring, successful and/or are good at what they do, are well liked by others, have integrity, and/or who are attractive in appearance to name some positive characteristics, this triggers resentment, jealousy, envy, etc.. People don't covet bad traits or characteristics in another person, but covet quality and good ones. A person covets because they feel they are lacking that which they covet. For this reason, it's good to remember that jealousy is really "inverted admiration".

A person who is mature, balanced, well adjusted is secure and comfortable with themselves and is aware of both their attributes and their shortcomings. When they see characteristics in others they find admirable, they don't covet. Instead, they are inspired and will make a conscious decision to try to incorporate into their own character what they see positive in another person. An immature person covets. A mature person is inspired.

I'm not saying though that mature, balanced, and well adjusted people don't experience feeling miserable from time to time, because anyone can and I dare say most have and/or do here and there, because life itself comes with curve balls, bumpy roads, and unexpected unpleasantness. But the difference is, well adjusted people don't allow themselves to remain in a state of misery. They find a way to fight against and rise above the unpleasantness so they can carry on with their life in a way that's workable for them to move forward productively without harbouring bitterness, resentment, and/or hatred in their hearts.

I honestly believe one of the best things that can be done for another person who is in that quagmire of misery is to help them find within themselves their own value, worth, and purpose, whether it be again or for the first time. However, there are some who have built a wall so thick and so tall, it's impenetrable and then there are others who just want to stay in that miserable quagmire state and seem to like wallowing in their misery and inflicting pain and misery onto others. 

"The Miserable"
Poetry/art by Artsieladie
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With all the rotten behaviour seen on the Internet,
It is best to remember, don't let ourselves forget
That those who are with themselves, so disatisfied,
Inflict their misery onto others to feel more gratified.

People who are bullies; are heartless, cruel, and mean,
Carry around within themselves a very ugly scene.
Because for who and what they are, they feel contempt,
They want others to be like them. No one is exempt.

Instead of taking measures to help themselves improve,
They choose to burrow deeper into the misery groove,
Because to rise above, there's initiative required
Of self motivation along with betterment desired.

Inadequacies within, though very unappealing,
The Miserable choose to compensate for by stealing
From others who have worked for and earned integrity,
As trophies for their vainness to share in their misery.

Actions and behaviours reflect on the source
Not on directed targets nor intended course.
The Miserable are only capable of misery projection;
Their ignorance cannot grasp their miserable reflection.

Wallowers in misery seek more company
Wanting others to feel their own misery.
Bringing down others to share their lowly roost
Is the highlight of their life and their only boost.

The Mierable will stop at nothing in their pursuit,
With no level too low to stoop to suck in a recruit.
They respect no boundaries; their wrongs they justify.
Deception of all sorts is their guide they live by.

Poetry/art by Artsieladie
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It's important to remember to keep things in perspective,
To know the truth behind another's cruel objective.
For when we understand why others are unkind,
They cannot steal from us our own peace of mind.

When we encounter people who cause us a frowning,
We can be sure in misery they are drowning.
When all they can project is hate and bitterness,
They're void of anything except self loathsomeness.

However, bad behaviours we must not condone,
Incorporate or feed, make them part of our own.
Wrongs never make a right, regardless of the count,
And only right can override and the wrong surmount.

Greet negative with positive; wrongs greet with right;
Meet lies with truth; to all darkness meet with Light.
Never participate in an arena where there are no rules,
Where the grand prize is misery, awarded by its fools.

Unless one is a hermit, hidden from the world,
It's impossible to avoid all the misery being hurled.
Though we are tempted, we must take a stand
For misery is a slippery slope right into quicksand.

We can only show others a better alternative;
The choice they make thereafter with how they live,
Is theirs and theirs alone which they will decide
To stay on misery's path or to seek a better ride.

"The Miserable among us, so rotten and so rude,
Make themselves clairvoyant with their attitude.
As they attack others, they paint their self portrait
Of their miserable existence and pathetic state."

💗 Have a blessed day! ðŸ’—
Poem/design by Artsieladie /Artsieladie Sharon Donnelly 
©2016-12-28 19:47:00 (EST)
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1 comment:

  1. Hi Artsieladie, I really Like your work here on your blog.

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