Saturday, July 4, 2015

Tough-Love

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Those who "truly" Love us, will Love us in spite of ourselves, in spite of our flaws, fetishes, and idiosyncrasies. But those who truly Love us will also be able to see value as well and those who truly Love us will want the best for us, which includes encouraging us to be the best of who we are. 

However, encouragement doesn't always come with words we want to hear but more like what we "need" to hear so we will hopefully work to improve ourselves so others can also see the best of what we have to offer and we all have within us something of value to offer, which often takes one who Loves us enough to show us, to reveal to us our pluses and to encourage us to accentuate our pluses and to minimise our minuses. This can culminate into what is called "Tough Love" because sometimes someone's negatives must be pointed out to try and get the person to address the lesser so their greater and better won't be secluded behind their negatives. 

When another Loves us truly, they will put aside what's best for themselves and place the best interests of the one they Love ahead of their own and this can include risking losing the one they deeply care about.

"Love is sometimes 'tough', painfully hard to endure,
But sometimes 'tough' is required to strengthen Love, secure.
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"Tough Love"

You may be fooling others but you're not fooling me.
That saintly humbleness, through it I can see.
You wear it like a cloak, smoothly, custom fit,
But underneath the cloak is a coward shy of grit.

Only with "Yes people" you mingle and yourself, surround,
To feed your ego's pride, 'tis such a pleasing sound.
Anyone who dares to stand up to you, oppose,
Your darker side retaliates, vengeance you impose.

Anyone who dares to challenge your disrespect,
Dares to state what to, why, and how they object,
You then apply tactics of intended intimidation,
Underhandedly imposed, a coward's delegation.

You don't operate openly but you work behind the scene,
So your underhanded practices can't be known or seen.
This way you can your victim make appear like they are lying,
And what you're selling, others will accept without any prying.

You refuse to take part in a discussion or debate
Where the whole Truth with facts to substantiate
Will be brought to the table for all to be addressed.
You only want revealed what makes you look the best.

You must be in control, control you demand;
You must be in charge, all under your command,
So you can run the show, have everything your way.
No one's allowed anything to against you say.

When your path crosses with one who only seeks
The Truth and therefore, the Truth only speaks,
This becomes a problem, a very serious issue,
When the focus directed and placed upon is you.

Others must not be made aware or allowed to know
Just how you really operate behind your put on show.
Only what you want them to, they are to believe,
Your secret life kept hidden as you cleverly deceive.

The string unraveling your woven web, if one should find,
All your projected sweetness turns mean and unkind.
You claim to believe in Love, claim to shine its Light,
Until when your Love is tested, it then is lost from sight.

I'm not all that big, you know, about half the size of you.
When you deceived me, you bit off more than you can chew.
I'm not your average woman, against you I will speak,
Whether or not you like it, the Truth I'll always seek.

I won't accept your version of the Truth as others blindly do
Nor will I bow or bend, cave or grovel, or kowtow to you.
But I'd be willing to work with you to expose your better self
With forgiveness and understanding not left upon the shelf.

The lesser takes away from, detracts from someone's beauty,
And Real Love knows it is its wholesome, truthful duty
To be completely honest with one Loved, not deceitful be,
Even when one Loved doesn't wish to, their own lesser see.

There's a point here to be made, although to hear very hard,
Real Love is unconditional, with the pluses and the marred.
Real Love is about bringing out and showing another's best
Including by revealing their minuses so they are addressed.

Casual concern and caring or fair weather friending
Is patronising and placating to avoid offending.
Whereas Love that's real will the honest truth speak,
To encourage one Loved to them better selves seek.

Non-invested hearts will say what another wants to hear
Not be concerned with whether or not if it is sincere
Because non-invested hearts will their words flavour
For the sole purpose for themselves to seek favour.

But hearts who are invested will be honest and sincere
And they will speak the truth even when they're in fear
Of losing a Loved one from becoming angry and offended
And maybe to the point where the relationship is ended.

Tough Love can be brutal, with its honesty expose
Another one's negatives to instigate, impose,
So the one Loved will aim for their flaws to be minimised,
While making then their pluses shine, surreally maximised.

The question then remains, do you have the guts to
Venture on a journey to expose the real you?
Not the lesser do I mean, but the better of,
Which I've also seen, thanks to God's Gift, Love.

Since Real Love relies on Truth, on lies cannot survive,
Real Love speaks with honesty to nurture Love to thrive.
When Love is threatened with lies and deceitfulness,
Harsh can be the Truth for Love will not the Truth suppress.


Poem by Artsieladie /Artsieladie Sharon Donnelly
©2015-04-03 15:05:00 (EST) 
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